The Dangers Of Using the Phrase “Men Don’t Cry”

Saying "men don't cry" is dangerous because it reinforces a harmful social stereotype that discourages men from expressing their emotions, potentially leading to bottled-up feelings, mental health issues, difficulty forming healthy relationships, and a lack of emotional awareness, all while considering vulnerability as a sign of weakness; essentially hindering men from fully experiencing their human emotions and seeking help when needed. 

Let’s explore the toxicity of the issue at hand. These are just a few examples of downplaying the mental     and emotions pain and suffering of men:    

- Suppressing emotions: Telling men not to cry can lead them to suppress their sadness, anger, and other emotions, which can manifest in unhealthy ways like aggression or substance abuse. 

-Stigma around vulnerability: This phrase perpetuates the idea that showing vulnerability is weak, preventing men from seeking support when they need it. 

-Mental health impact: Bottled-up emotions can contribute to increased rates of depression and  anxiety among men. 

-Relationship difficulties: Inability to express emotions can negatively impact relationships as partners may feel unheard or unsupported. 

-Impact on young boys: Teaching boys not to cry from a young age can have lasting effects on their  emotional development. 

What to say instead:

"It's okay for men to cry."

"Everyone experiences emotions, including sadness."

"Expressing your feelings is a sign of strength."