Why the No Secrets Policy is Important in Couple Counseling

In couples counseling, there is typically a "no secrets" policy because the focus is on the relationship as a whole, meaning the therapist cannot effectively help the couple if one partner is withholding crucial information from the other; keeping secrets can hinder communication and progress in therapy, and the therapist's role is to facilitate open and honest dialogue between both partners. 

The couple is considered the client, not just one individual, so any information relevant to the relationship needs to be shared openly. Therefore, to build trust and foster genuine communication, both partners need to be transparent with each other and the therapist. Therefore, keeping secrets can create a dynamic where one partner confides in the therapist, potentially pulling them into the conflict between the couple. 

More importantly, therapists have an ethical obligation to promote healthy communication within the couple, which includes disclosing relevant information even if it is considered a "secret". 

While the therapist will typically disclose information shared in individual   sessions, they will do so carefully and with the aim of supporting the couple's communication. 

This is why in some cases, a therapist may hold individual sessions with each partner, but even then, is important information that impacts the relationship is likely to be shared with the other partner. 

An experienced therapist will inform you and your significant other about the "no secrets" policy and have the opportunity to discuss any concerns since the very first session you agree to counseling services.